R U OK? Day
R U OK? Day is an important day for the Bayside community. Staying connected and having meaningful conversations with our neighbours, friends and family is something we can all do – as one chat could make a world of difference to someone’s day. If you notice someone who could benefit from a chat on the 14th of September (or any day, for that matter) – see it as your cue to begin a respectful conversation. In today’s blog, C&G present a few ideas for kickstarting meaningful conversations.
- 1. Ask
The best way to approach checking in with a friend, colleague or family member is to simply be yourself. Open with ‘What’s been happening?’ or ‘How are you going?’ You can encourage a deeper conversation by being relaxed and friendly, but don’t be backwards about coming forward with any concerns you might have. ‘I haven’t seen you around as much as usual’ or ‘I feel like we haven’t chatted in a while, is there something on your mind?’ may be helpful, gentle questions to pose. It’s possible they may not want to talk – that’s ok. You can ask if there is someone else they might like to chat with. Some people find it easier to write things down – maybe they’d prefer if you texted them later.
- 2. Listen
When you’re listening, ensure you’re not judging. Take what your friend or family member says seriously and let them express themselves without interruption or rushing. It can be helpful to repeat elements of what they’ve shared with you in your own words, to ensure you’ve understood them properly and acknowledge that things are difficult for them.
- 3. Encourage Action
There are three important questions to ask after you’ve finished your discussion – questions that will hopefully incite action. Firstly, ask how you can help, or how you can support your friend. Ask if there has been anything they’ve done before to manage a similar situation. And ask if there’s anything you can do for them right now.
If you’ve noticed your friend has been experiencing a consistently low mood for a period of two weeks or longer – encourage them to see a health professional.
- 4. Check In
Set yourself a reminder to check back in with them. It could be in a week – it could be in a month. When you chat again, ask if they are feeling any differently. If not, ask if you can help them to find a solution. Stay in touch and be around, as being a good friend and checking in regularly can go a long way.
The Bayside community are a wonderful, supportive bunch - so we know you’ve got what it takes to be a great mate this R U OK? Day! If you’re feeling down, R U OK? Day is a great opportunity to connect with your support network. The below numbers are also a great resource should you need more assistance.
Lifeline: 13 11 14
Kids Helpline: 1800 55 1800
Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467
GriefLine: 1300 845 745